同情心和同理心

1，“同”

人同此心，心同此理。

人同此心，心同此情？

台湾同胞尤其念叨同理心。类似的Google关键字结果，繁体资料很丰富，讲的也形象、透彻。

2，“发乎情，止乎礼”

情，不自觉，自然而然。

理，要动脑，层次有别。

你自然的拥有同情心，但同理心，却是要经过道理、逻辑的整理方能浮现。

3，情理不偏废

有同情心，无同理心，走到极端就是自作多情、自以为是——这样的人，要别人点拨。

有同理心，无同情心，走到极端就是冷酷淡漠、公事公办——这样的人，要自己开悟。

同情心，可算作“同体大悲”，同理心，可算作“无缘大慈”。佛陀二者兼具，偏废其一不堪称佛。

佛光大辞典——

无缘大慈：佛观一切皆空，而不以特定之人为对象，故佛之慈悲特称无缘大慈；其慈心遍及一切众生，乃为慈悲中之最尊者。 

同体大悲：佛陀之悲乃是以众生苦为己苦之同心同感状态，故称同体大悲。又其悲心广大无尽，故称无盖大悲（无有更广、更大、更上于此悲者）。

也有人说：

无缘大慈,就是不需要任何理由的给予安乐。 

同体大悲，就是和一切都融于一体的拔除痛苦。

出处：百度知道

Those Relevant is more important than those popular

一个关于Blog的讨论:

Nick Carr发表The Great Unread,认为Blog圈最后也会像旧媒体圈子一样,那些在A-list上的Blogger将会赢得最多的眼球和关注,从而使得默默无名的Blogger没有出头之日,只能祈求那些A-listers大发善心加上其链接.于是,这个圈子其实也是封建等级制的一部分,所谓平等,开放及民主不过是纯洁的欺骗,善意的谎言而已.[...What we tell ourselves about the blogosphere - that it's open and democratic and egalitarian, that it stands in contrast and in opposition to the controlled and controlling mass media - is an innocent fraud.]

这篇post评论无数,一些A-listers还专门撰文加以反驳或讨论.比如,Mike Arrington就拍案而起的大叫道:Nick,绿林好汉还是混蛋一个?[Is Nick Carr the new Robin Hood, or just an Asshole?]

Stowe Boyd 对这次讨论做了比较详尽的归纳,推荐看一下.

个人比较认同的,是从Chris那里看到的观点:

Blogging is not about superstars; it's about individuals. It's the long tail of publishing. The top 100 is less important than the top 1 million - or more.

People and companies around the world start blogging not to get on the A-list, but rather to say something to their immediate audience. Even if that is an audience of one.

'Most Readers' will never beat 'Most personally relevant'. My local school's blog has more relevance to me than the A-list blog about schooling hosted by a stranger on the other side of the world.

一句话:Ultimately the goal of blogging should be that participants can find content that is not just popular, but most personally relevant.